Readjustment of Children's Roles and Social Relationships after Parental Divorce

Abstract




This article examined children’s adjustment to their social roles and relationships after their parents’ divorce. This research was based on empirical data collected through interviews and observations of children aged 18 years and under. The collected data was analyzed qualitatively and interpretatively. Research revealed that the dynamics of the relationship between parents after divorce have a direct influence on children’s readjustment. Positive adjustment was seen when parents maintained a good relationship (as friends), and children continued their normal activities such as school and social interactions. On the other hand, if the parental relationship is not friendly, children tend to make negative adjustments, which have a detrimental impact on children, such as boys often fighting, addicted to cigarettes and gambling, but are also found to work while going to school to contribute to the family income and get married at a young age. Girls tend to withdraw and stay at home. These findings emphasized the important role of parental relationships in helping children’s adjustment after divorce. Establishing a healthy co-parenting dynamic is critical to supporting their successful adaptation to the new family structure.


Keywords: readjustment, parent’s divorce, children’s roles; social relationships




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