Can Dating Violence Predict Feelings of Hatred Toward a Partner?


Dating violence can occur in unhealthy dating relationships. This study aims to determine when someone experiences dating violence and its impact on their feelings of hatred. The research method used is quantitative, with research subjects aged 20–30 years who have or are currently having dating experiences of violence in their relationship. The number of subjects in this study was 533, obtained by random sampling. The instruments used in this study were Conflict in Adolescent Dating Relationships Inventory (CADRI) and the triangular hate scale. The results obtained through simple and multiple linear regression tests showed that there was a significantly positive effect of dating violence on hatred. Of the total five aspects of dating violence, verbal and emotional violence were the highest compared to the other four aspects. This means that the hatred felt by individuals toward their partner can be caused by violence that has occurred, especially verbal and emotional violence.

Keywords: dating violence, hate, partner

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